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Comments by Java Mann

I went out tonight for a few reasons: to celebrate my new job and quitting my existing job, plus meeting up with my alleged significant other. Mr. Right did not show up again, (he will henceforth be known as Mr. Ex.) but I was in a good mood and wasn’t about to get teary eyed. I met up with a few friends and had a few beers and a few laughs. A pleasant time was had by all.

The bar I frequent is located in the middle of a bar crawl, that is, a two-block area containing about five bars. The owner of my bar chooses to refer to it as a "gay friendly" establishment rather than a gay bar, and for the most part the crowd is rather mixed. Needless to say as the night goes on a few people wander in who don’t comprehend the scene immediately. More often than not they step in, do a quick male to female ratio check, and then step out. No problem. 

Occasionally they do not step out, and this often results in problems. Sunday evening, a group of intoxicated breeders and two drag queens found themselves in the same room. Hilarity did not ensue. On two separate occasions I had to physically separate individuals, and even though no one was having a good time, neither group would leave. Go figure.

Tonight, however, was a completely different story. A few hours or so before closing two guys wandered in. They were not regulars, and were wearing wristbands from another club. The bouncer in me labeled them trouble and I kept an eye on them. Well, you can’t judge a book by its cover. 

Their names were Jerry and Rick, and they were two of the coolest guys I’ve met in a very long time. They were straight (brothers) and had wandered in my mistake, but found that the drinks were cheaper there and decided to stay. Shortly after arriving Rick won a cheap toy radio in a bar raffle. They flirted with the resident flamer, joked and had a great time. Neither was obnoxiously drunk, and before the night was over I had danced with both, and one had (publicly) shown off his Prince Albert. When the lights came up and it was time to go I tried to say goodnight with a handshake. Both brushed my hand away and hugged me. Obviously these are not your run of the mill straight boys. 

I’ve noticed that straight women are more likely to frequent gay bars, and admittedly I can see the why. Gay bars offer music, dancing, friendly people and the chance of being hit on is all but negligible. Straight guys obviously see things differently. I might be generalizing, but I suspect that most straight guys see themselves as the ultimate studs, and they "know" every gay man wishes to have sex with them. Sorry to burst your collective bubble guys, but this is often not the case. Chances are, if you have a hard time finding a woman to be with you, a guy won’t want to be with you either.

Rick and Jerry are from out of town, but say they’ll be coming back next weekend. I hope they do. Anyway, I had a nice night out, met some new people, and hopefully made a couple of new friends.

And all without you, Mr. Ex.
 
 


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