Money and Men

 

            O.K. men, we really need to talk.  I have been thinking about this all night and I feel its time to speak and get it out in

the open.  We have some serious issues to look at here.  It has to do with how we perceive ourselves.  So you know what I

mean here is the backdrop story for you.

            I am in a great, wonderful, and amazing relationship with a beautiful woman.  Even better, we both agree on an

unconditional love and few restraints as possible, so we both see other people as well.  It is perfect.  The problem I became

aware of is that in all the time we have been going about like this, I have had complaints or reservations about everyone that she

has seen while she has not had any about mine.  Now, with the exception of two none of them have been justified.  Sure I worry about her and crazy people are out there but I found myself hiding jealous emotions behind a façade of worry.

            But what was I jealous over?  I have other people I see and I understand the feeling of something new and the

wonderful sense of adventure in meeting new people. So what could I be jealous over?  So, I said I wasn’t and that I was just

worried.  Last night my eyes were open.  I found out the reason: I was jealous because these people she sees take her out and

wine and dine her and she gets to feel like a queen in a fairy tale for a while.  The Satyr has been out of work for about six

months or so and I haven’t had the money to spend on her like I would have liked.  And by the way, any gratuities that you

want to send I would be more than glad to get them!  I recently got a job and I am starting to feel better about it but I have still

been jealous.  Once I realized this it was like that bird flew away to bother me no more.

            At a young age males are taught how important it is to spend money on a woman.  We are also taught that you

can’t buy love.  So where does that leave us?  In an emotional bind, unsure of what we should do.  Women do love gifts and

my girl is no exception.  I realize now that I can’t view myself in terms of money with her.  Yes, she goes out and has fun and gets the attention of men that treat her like a queen, but I do that to her as well in other ways.

      In the meantime though, I think that all men need to evaluate why we get so jealous sometimes.  I thought this

particular jealousy would never strike me.  I thought that I was above that, but I was wrong.  But I am glad that I have been

struck thus, because my girl is so great and allows me all my insecurities so that I can grow into a better person.  And there are

all kinds of women out there that will do that but we as men have to start looking at our other aspects.  We need to get past all of the money issues.  While it is good to treat a woman like a queen it doesn’t always take money.  Guys grow up, most of us, instilled with the belief that some women are just after our money and when we find someone we have a tendency to not want to share for fear of losing them.  And we think that nothing more will take them away quicker than a bigger and better deal.  Not true.  Sure there are those women out there like that, but for the most part we all have something to offer.  That is what Summer and my relationship is about: getting to experience that variety and still being connected in a way that is very special.  And it works.  I feel very connected to her now, even though she is out with someone else.  When I am with someone I still feel that connection and love for her.  I think that I always will feel that in someway or another.  I am just glad that I caught this before it blossomed into something worse.  So lets all start looking at things from less clouded vision and see what we can do about improving our relationships with women.  It really depends on the communication, with them and with us.  Good Luck!

 

The Satyr.

 

P.S.:  By the way I am still waiting on any mail you want to send!  Even if you hate my thoughts I would love to hear from you.

Talk with you next time!